Wednesday, May 13, 2015

Romantic phrases through the ages

I went through a phase in high school where I read only Agatha Christie, and another where I devoured all the Perry Mason books in the library near my school. Then there was the Danielle Steele and romantic book phase. (I was trying to read as many as I could lay my hands on, and then came across 'The long road home', which made me want to laugh and roll my eyes, though I suppose it was meant to be serious and sentimental. My mental summary read, "nun loves guy, guy dies, nun loves priest, priest commits suicide, nun loves next guy" or something along those lines).

Anyway, the Danielle Steele phase coincided to some extent with the time I watched Kuch Kuch Hota Hai. (I even had a pencil box that said, "Kuch kuch hota hai... someone, somewhere, is made for you" :P As well as a titanic keychain). Teenage. Figuring out crushes. Making sense of bodily changes. Soppy stuff. Mush. 

That was when I read 'The Promise'. For the longest of times, I was in love with a sentence from the book that went something like, "There was a huge difference between saying 'I love you' and 'I am in love with you' and the gap cannot be bridged" or some such thing. I found it extremely romantic. (Sadly for me, the majority of the people in my class wouldn't even accept that having a crush wasn't the same as falling in love, so I couldn't dream of them ever appreciating the beauty and profoundness of this sentence.)

Since then, I've thought at different times, "Oh, how romantic", when I came across some conversation, a book or a song. 

"I will never let you go away" , "I'll always be with you"and "I want to be with you every minute of the day" were romantic, until the day I decided they were creepy and obsessive to an extreme degree. 

"I'm yours" and "be mine" used to be romantic, too. And then I decided 'owning' a person was too much responsibility and not for me. 

Maybe it's an age thing or maybe I'm finally growing up and getting an idea about the 'mature, sensible and down-to-earth' kind of love, but the lines that've been giving me butterflies of late are :

"I cooked"

"I took out the garbage"

and ...

"I cleaned the house and the bathroom also"

I've never really wanted a prince (I can't afford to date/be with someone that rich :P Well, any prince who does enter my life will of course be insanely rich ;) ). For many years now, my idea of a dream guy was someone who'd cook and share household chores. 

Maybe my heart is finally listening to my head, and that's why I find the idea of a guy cleaning the bathroom extremely appealing.

(Yay! I'm (almost) grown up! Or am I rejoicing too soon?!)

My mind is singing, "Tere liye, hi khaana banaya maine...bathroom ko bhi saaf kiya hoon" to the tune of 'tum hi ho'... So, romantic, no?


Wednesday, May 6, 2015

An open letter from the friend zone

I just came across this earlier today. I've been thinking (yes, thinking mentally, SM!!!) a lot of late (an excuse for procrastination)

There seems to be a common misconception that it's only guys who get friendzoned and left forever alone. (Kollywood songs I know say the same thing). 

I am tired of being asked, "What? How are you still single?". Then they add, "Oh, but you're so pretty. And intelligent as well. Are you seriously single?" I don't know what to say when someone says, "What? You got rejected? Friendzoned? Really?". Yes. Really. Big deal. I am just glad I wasn't led on with false hopes. 

Do you know of the conversation that goes like this :

Guy - "What do you think of love/relationships?"
You - "..."
Guy - "You know that girl in your class/your friend? I love her. Please help me talk to her."

or the one that goes,

Guy - "Who is that girl? She's gorgeous. Isn't she your friend? Please can you introduce us?"/"How do you think I should approach this girl?"
You - "..."

This has been the gist of many of my conversations from school days until now. So much that even now, if some guy starts a conversation with me, the first thing I wonder about is which of the girls I've been seen with he's interested in...

(On an aside, how do you "love" someone just by seeing them a few times? My mind boggles at the thought...)

So, just for the record, yes, I have been friendzoned. Rejected. And tired of being a 'wingwoman' or whatever. If you are interested in, (or 'love' someone whom you've seen a few times from a great distance), please summon up enough courage to approach them directly. A "sorry, but I'm not interested in you" isn't the end of the world. If you want to talk to me, then come and talk to me directly. (Last week someone told me they were scared to initiate a conversation with me because I'm quiet. :| )

Adios, folks...

(Apologies for a not-really-coherent post).